I thoroughly love the book Girl, Wash Your Face! by Rachel Hollis. The book is aptly titled Girl, Wash Your Face! because Rachel has been there. (I’m purposely calling her Rachel rather than Mrs. Hollis. It seems more personal.) She has been in the bathroom crying that ugly cry, because of rejection and failure. What do you do after the ugly cry? You wash your face. Then you move on according to Rachel.
Yes, I know that it has the word “girl” in the title, but guys can learn a lot from what she has to say as well.
Rachel goes through one myth, preconception, or “lie” at a time, and discusses why our old conceptions might be holding us back. What prompted me to create this post is the chapter titled “The Lie: I’m a Terrible Writer.” Rachel tells her readers in detail about the ups and downs of becoming a writer, and how she used to heavily rely on book reviews. Although she admittedly still looks at book reviews, she tells us how they aren’t her biggest influence anymore.
I wrote a star in my book (yes, I write in books) next to something that her therapist told her: “Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business.”
Then Rachel does this:
Let me say that again for the people in the cheap seats. SOMEONE ELSE’S OPINOIN OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS.
She continues:
“Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business. Those words are so powerful for anyone who tends to hold other people’s opinions ahead of their own; and they are never more profound than when we’re creating something. Maybe it’s a book, a blog, a company, a piece of art, or your fashion sense. When you create something from your heart, you do it because you can’t not do it. You produce it because you believe your creation deserves to be out in the world. You work and work and then you close your eyes and cross your fingers and hope it finds recognition. But here’s the thing about that magical, mystical thing you’re making: You create because you have a God-given ability to do so. You create as a gift to yourself and to the higher power who blessed you with those abilities. But you can’t make people like or understand it.
“You have to be willing to put it out there even if they don’t like it.”
As I reread these words, I can feel a sense of energy and confidence that I wish I had. Personally, if you get energized by reading this post or reading her book, then I’ve done my job. If anything you see here inspires you to work on your next project, then that is fanastic!
Even if Rachel and I don’t know each other personally, having words like these is what keeps me going both with my blog and other projects that I might tackle. My advice is to find whatever keeps you motivated.
I want to clarify that Rachel does in fact use editors, but the main idea is that she does not let every book review or comment determine what she writes next.
I would rather put my work out there no matter what the response will be. I would rather create in celebration of the fact that I have the ability to do so.
The passion and confidence drips from the page, right? That is my hope for all of you out there. I hope that we (myself included) find the strength and perseverance that Rachel has.
Also, don’t be afraid to try something creative and/or silly to get those creative juices flowing. You can use a new recipe, draw, journal, do yoga, talk to a suportive friend, read a book, see an inspiring and/or funny movie. The things that keep us motivated will change from person to person.
So, I hope you have a good week. Stay tuned for more inspiration and nuggets of wisdom that I have found along the way.
Best of luck,
Vanessa